Life, Interrupted

I find it pretty hard to cope pleasantly with interruptions. Whether I'm trying to finish a task, a full thought or a complete sentence, taking interruptions in stride does not come easily.

And lately I've been reflecting on the art of being available; not only willing, but immediately obedient, when the LORD interrupts my carefully laid daily plans and invites me to invest a moment in His kingdom. Perhaps it was a phone call I wasn't expecting, a visit that causes me to set aside my outdoor work (yeah THAT'S why I have a garden full of weeds instead of flowers ;)...) or muffins I hadn't intended to bake, or playing for a few moments on the floor when I have mountains of other things that need to get done.

As I am teaching my children the importance of handling interruptions properly, I myself am being taught. And isn't that they way it should be!? After all, we can only really teach the things we ourselves are in the process of learning.


Usually I give my kiddos the "5-minute warning" before we have to transition to the next activity. Generally this works very well. As humbling as it is, I think the LORD uses this gentle tactic on my heart as well. Only His nudges sometimes occur weeks or even months in advance of the actual change. I can feel it stirring in my heart. A restlessness. A knowing that a step (or even a great big gigantic LEAP!) of faith will be required. An invitation on the horizon.

Leah, the Voice whispers, this is a relationship that will require some attention.
Or Daughter, again that gentle nudge, this is an area of character that needs refinement.

I felt sad this week. One of our neighbors from down the street will have moved out by the end of the month. Though I am thrilled with who will be moving in, I am still sad. See, I received many Divine Invitations to reach out. To get to know my neighbor. To allow our kids to play and hear what was going on in her heart.

And indeed we met once or twice, and tried to get together even a few times after that, but it after a while just became easier to let it slide.
And now she will be gone.
And I missed the chance to embrace another and accept a divine opportunity.

All because I was too busy keeping my life tidy and my home organized and things under control.
I long to be more readily available, to be attuned to these heavenly challenges, more ... interruptible.

Even as I've been writing this post, I have had the opportunity to practice "interruptions."
Seems I have a long, long way to go ;).

But perhaps, with a bit a lot of practice, I can reflect Isaiah's sentiments...
Then I heard the voice of the Lord saying, "Whom shall I send? And who will go for us?" And I said, "Here am I. Send me!"

Connected

I have found, with each of the three babies we've been blessed with, that the hardest part about the transition phase (and it IS a phase, I keep telling myself!!!) is not the sleep-deprived nights (although those are pretty harsh!) nor the constant stream of interruptions (though I have had to learn how to cope better with that --- not a personal strength :P) nor the fact that you are essentially on duty 24/7.

Nope. The hardest part for me has been learning how to stay connected with God, myself, and others throughout the journey.

It's not that there aren't pockets of time available, because there are. But for availability and energy to happen at the same time --- well, it's a miracle indeed!

This summer it has been particularly challenging to stay connected with Little M. Babe requires a lot of attention, time and energy. Our rhythm of life is in upheaval and so the times we normally took to connect were no longer consistent. And, with hero dad being around all summer long, she followed him like a shadow --- which gave me a nice break, but also meant that we spent even less time in each other's presence.

Not good.
Makes parenting and training and disciplining even more challenging.
And I missed her :).

I knew I needed to get a bit creative in how we were going to share time together. As I uttered a short, but whole-heartedly sincere, prayer about this, an idea came to mind....

Grandma's tea set.

Back in spring, the gals & I had ourselves a little adventure, and headed west (all of 2 hours!) to pick up my mom and go visit my grandparents. In their mid-80's, time with them is getting shorter and shorter. We needed time together. My dear grandma, my cool grandma who drove a thunder bird and let me hang my arm out the window while we drove around town; my sweet grandma who entertained us with stories of mischief and childhood tales; my spunky grandma who laughs and laughs and laughs... gave us a little china tea set. It was time we put it to good use!

Our tea parties are brief. Iced tea and crackers or cookies are our dining fare. We sit quietly munching (I prefer to let M lead the conversations to avoid peppering her with questions and to see what she'll come up with!) or lightly chatting. Little M is THRILLED when she gets to pour the little tea pot (an MCC bargain!) and when she insists we do things, like eat our cookie, at the same time.

Our locations are random. On the deck, outside in the grass, on the living room floor --- it doesn't matter where. It is a 15-minute glimpse of heaven and it is wonderful :).

The best part is, Little M has my undivided attention for a short little while. 

And I have hers. 

And that time will run out faster than I can blink.

And in the mean time, we practice connection and enjoy conversation.

At least I know she's listening :)

Sweet babe had spent an hour wailing away.
Missed her nap time by a country mile and now it was melt-down city!
In the midst of this, Little M and Sweet K have YET ANOTHER kurfuffle...
and suddenly my left eye starts twitching again...
and I can feel my temper rising (which had remained surprisingly calm all day long ;P)...
and BO-ING! Uh oh. Here comes mama bear and she is GROWLY!!

"GIRLS. STOP THAT RIGHT NOW. IT'S HARD ENOUGH LISTENING TO YOUR SISTER WAILING AWAY WITHOUT HAVING TO HEAR YOU TWO SQUABBLING AT THE SAME TIME. SO JUST Q.U.I.T. I.T. ALREADY!!!!"

Silence. Blink. Blink. Blink.
Okay then. I'll just go sit back down and keep rocking the still-wailing baby.

Once Babe had settled and calm reigned again, I knew I needed to apologize.

Me: "Sorry honey, for yelling. That was not kind, and I am sorry."

Little M: "Thank you. Yelling is just not appropriate."

Sometimes you wonder if they actually hear the things you say, but apparently she is listening!! :)

Love Tickets

One of the "games" Little M has been into these days is "Speeding Tickets."
Mainly -- she speeds, and someone -- mostly an adult who can print ;) -- writes up a "speeding ticket" for her.
Fun fun. I am always sure to note that the fine, which is $100, goes STRAIGHT to her mother ;).

I'm not sure where she got this idea. Thankfully, it wasn't because I got a speeding ticket to set the example. ;)

Yesterday morning, however, I was the recipient of ticket. It actually could've been a "speeding ticket" considering the swift way I was headed toward the shower!!
Hey, when you only have a 5-minute window opportunity, rest assured one can move very quickly!!

"WHOA MOM, WAIT!!"
Sigh. That quiet-window is rapidly closing. One more interruption to field before ...
"DID YOU NOTICE YOUR TICKET!?"
No. No I had not. Apparently I had missed the lucky piece of paper on the stairs.
"HERE'S YOUR TICKET MOM!"
"Is it for speeding?" I ask with a grin.
"NO, it's your LOVE TICKET."

Oh my. My very own love ticket. Oh how I love her little-girl heart, and how much I have to learn from her, and how she stops me in my mothering-tracks and how much I will miss her when in a few short weeks she will head off to kindergarten and I will cry my eyes out!!! I have it taped to my kitchen cabinet where I can see it all the time. A reminder for me to stop, invest in those I love, and shower them with time and affection.

I'd write more, but I think it's time I go out and hand out a few "love tickets" of my own ;).

Focus

This is one's perspective on life after very little sleep....

slightly hazy and over-exposed

This is one's perspective on life after a bit more rest!

clarity and focus

In the fog of fatigue, it is sometimes hard to see the forest for the trees, or rather the garden through the weeds :). These days I find I have a mild moderate slightly acute obsession with all things sleep-related!!! However, I find it most reassuring that even when I can't see things as clearly as I'd like, and I may not always feel like my best self (the other day I was asked to spell my name, and I admit, I had a brain stall!), experience has taught me that these things too will come around again :).

We've been enjoying a lovely summer full of great memories. With only a few short weeks left before school life resumes for Jon and Little M trots off to kindergarten (sob sob sob soooooob!!), we've been balancing family fun with time-that-this-mom-needs-at-home (I have stated quite emphatically more than once that for every day we are out and about I need at least ONE FULL DAY to recover --- especially if anyone wants clean clothes in the closet or clean dishes in the cupboards!!). We've played at the park on several evening occasions, visited with friends whom we haven't seen in a long long while, shared outings with grandparents, paid a visit or two to Superstore :) and even tackled SCHOOL SUPPLY SHOPPING - which was extraordinary fun!

Learning how to handle fatigue well has been a theme in my life for the last 4 years. Whether it has been tackling the insomnia that surfaced after both Little M and Sweet K were born, learning how to best help Sweet K with her sleep problems (an on-going issue), and now adjusting to life with an infant (who, by the way, has been sleeping better at night than her older two sisters --- sheesh!!!), my constant desire is not simply to SURVIVE this season, but to THRIVE in it as well.

This comes from a strength I do not have on my own. 

The days when I remember to centre my perspective and pray for the ability to live well and love well go far smoother than the days when I wake up grumpy and stay that way pretty much for the rest of the day ;). 

The days when I count my gratitudes are overwhelming with blessing rather than overwhelming with all the demands of time and energy.

Sometimes too many days pass before I remember that this is the way I long to live. But it's coming. And it is good.

Disoriented!!

It's bizarre.
The house is quiet.
All THREE BABIES ARE SLEEPING PEACEFULLY AT THE SAME TIME!!
Jon is at a meeting.
Even the family pooch is settled in a corner.

What's a gal to do!?!?!?

It feels a bit ... strange ;)!
Not complaining though.
I'm sure I can find some way to entertain myself, even if it's just for a little while!

Sun kissed :)

One of my goals this summer is to get a tan ;).

May sound fickle to some, but to me, it feels like LIFE! Getting outside with a newborn takes some timing (I don't mind taking her OUT, it's the scaring the neighbors with the wailing that concerns me ;)...), some creativity, and some courage.

And it means that I feel like LIVING again. With both Little M and Sweet K, I struggled through a deep, dark valley after their arrivals. The first time through, it took about a year to get back on my feet. With Sweet K, it took nearly two before I was free of it. I am so grateful. We're already one month into this journey and I can tell it is very very different. I can't say that I won't battle insomnia, panic attacks or the waves of despair at some point, but this feels so much brighter and I am very thankful that I can fully and totally enjoy my newborn and this learning journey that we are on. And so, getting OUT and soaking in the SUN seems completely delightful to me!!

This week we created our "Summer Fun List." A fun project that we started last summer --- making note of a few things we wanted to squeeze into our summer holidays to ensure that we DO them :)! With Jon starting holidays OFFICIALLY this week :), it was time to make sure that it wasn't all work-around-the-house and no play!!

These are the things we hope to experience this summer...

1. A boat ride with Grandma & Grandpa G
2. Trip to the Mennonite Heritage Museum with Grandma & Grandpa D
3. The Zoo ---- checked off yesterday!
4. Go to the Beach :)
5. Run in the sprinkler ---- we've already done this a couple of times, but Little M insisted it be on the list!!
6. Visit the Steinbach Aquatic Centre
7. Go to a splash park
8. Explore Lower Fort Garry
9. Watch a parade (um, we missed the one in our little local town due to the fact that Tiny Babe arrived the night before!!)
10. Learn to ride a two-wheeled bike with training wheels ---- Little M has already done this and is begging for opportunities to cruise all over town!
11. Slumber party @ Grandma & Grandpa G's (this one is for the girlies only. I, on the other hand, will enjoy some PAQ with only a wee one to look after!!)
12. Go for a train ride 
13. Go to Tinker Town

Leah's Summer Fun List!!!

1. Enjoy an Bailey's Irish Cream beverage (hot AND cold!) --- a bottle was a birthday gift from my mother --- I had put it on my wish list at christmas, but considering I was pregnant, we decided it could be a birthday present ;)
2. Get a SUNTAN!!!
3. Visit Aqua Books (a delightful used bookstore I've become acquainted with) --- may or may not take the Wee One with me, but she's quite totable :P

There you have it. A lot of fun stuff planned for the summer to help round out all the chores, miscellaneous projects and odds 'n ends that are a part of life.

Sounds like laughter and fun to me!